Sunday, November 24, 2019

Empowering Ideas

"Instruction does much, 
but encouragement everything." 

-- Johann Wolfgang von Goethe 


Goethe also is quoted saying, "The greatest evil that can befall man is that he should come to think ill of himself."

So, what is the real value of encouragement? It is that we help someone else to restore belief in themselves.

Instruction is good. We all can use instruction, but what we crave more than anything is to be empowered within ourselves in confidence, and thereby, in joy.

This is the power of coaching. It is part instruction, yes, but it is more because it empowers those who partake in the coaching experience to expand and become more. Empowering people is the most generous gift from coaching.

If it is time for you to grow with a coach to become more empowered and to have more joy in your life, call 530-310-6123 and let's chat. Step one toward empowerment is reaching out.



Thursday, November 21, 2019

How to gain control of your free time | Laura Vanderkam


There are 168 hours in each week. How do we find time for what matters most? Time management expert Laura Vanderkam studies how busy people spend their lives, and she's discovered that many of us drastically overestimate our commitments each week, while underestimating the time we have to ourselves. She offers a few practical strategies to help find more time for what matters to us, so we can "build the lives we want in the time we've got."

Monday, November 18, 2019

6 Reasons to be Optimistic About the Future | Jack Canfield


It's important to remember that for every problem we face as a society, there are many brilliant people around the world working on solutions, which should give us a great deal of hope for the future. Here are 6 reasons to be optimistic about the future.

Friday, November 15, 2019

Getting the Help You Want and Need

"Help!
I need somebody.
Help!
Not just anybody.
Help!
You know I need someone.
Help!"

-- John Lennon and Paul McCartney




The song's first verse continues, "when I was younger, so much younger than today, I never needed anybody's help in any way. But now these days are gone, I'm not so self-assured. Now I find I've changed my mind and opened up the doors." I just love the last part of that verse: "now I find I've changed my mind and opened up the doors."

We all have a lot going on in my life and I also know that we can all use some help from time to time. Realizing and accepting that can be transforming.

Sometimes for a range of reasons, we may resist reaching out and stop looking for solutions to our perceived problems or our feeling of being stuck. Yet, by not reaching out, we are destined to stay in that place when asking for help could propel us to new and unknown heights and happiness.

Whether you want to grow your business, get on a more rewarding path personally, or just want some ideas to feel better about yourself, making a decision to reach out and ask for some help is a great thing to do.

Jennifer House Coaching can be of service when you are ready to reach out. Let us give you some clarity and a renewed perspective toward your goals and desires. Call 530-310-6123 and let's talk about it.


Tuesday, November 12, 2019

7 common questions about workplace romance | The Way We Work, a TED series


Should you date your coworker? Should workplace couples keep their relationships secret? And why are coworkers so often attracted to each other? Organizational psychologist Amy Nicole Baker shares the real answers to commonly asked questions about romance at the office.

Saturday, November 9, 2019

Be Gentle With Yourself

"Be gentle with yourself. 
You are a child of the universe 
no less than the trees and the stars; 
you have a right to be here." 

-- Max Ehrmann 




Many times when we are trying to change something and continually failing to follow through, we may beat up on ourselves for failing one more time, renewing our vow to break through tomorrow. Until tomorrow arrives. In that new present, our current passion, habitual thought, or habitual activity seems so much more comfortable and enticing. Then, we get mad at ourselves again, reiterate our vow to change, and that process may go on for years.

Here's something that puts a different spin on all of that. It is this: stop beating myself up and start loving myself unconditionally. Beating myself up just reinforces a low self-image, imagining that I'm so weak that I cannot do as I want to do, and I do what is habitual instead. We are, after all, very habitual creatures. Habit is a benefit in our lives and it also can be a detriment. Nonetheless, beating myself is the worst thing I can do. It is not helpful, and it is not loving at all.

You can see this in the world where you're out and about and you hear a parent berating their child, yelling impatiently at them, telling them what they are doing wrong. You can hear it on the sidelines at ball games with angry coaches thinking that their loud angry voice is of benefit to the players. You can even find it in the workplace with angry bosses or supervisors yelling at their workers, and finally, we can hear it at home with our spouses from time to time. None of it helps.

No, none of it helps because it is reinforcing the pattern that is supposedly desiring of change. In other words, rather than leading us away from the thing we say we no longer want to do, or the behavior that is somehow "wrong," the verbal abuse simply makes that stand out more. It is the exact same thing within ourselves. Beating ourselves up only reinforces the so-called failing.

Imagine you're God and that you are a loving God. You invented unconditional love. You promote it. Now imagine looking at the failing you. You've failed to follow through or change one more time. As a loving God, are you going to lay on some guilt and anger, or will you lavish total peace with your unconditional love? What would that unconditional love feel like? It would feel pretty dang good, don't you think? You might even begin feeling good about yourself, feeling your value, loving your life, blessing your actions as okay.

Now, if you really wanted to change, as opposed to thinking you need to change, you have a far better chance at fulfillment with the love than with the chiding. Wouldn't you agree?

Next time you want to change something, whether it is to begin something and move in a new direction, or to let loose of something no longer desired, feel the love. You can do the pretending I'm God thing if you need a little more authority, but I am certain that a loving God taught us how to love ourselves. It's part of our DNA. We simply forget from time to time. Be gentle and loving with yourself. You're the only you that exists. You're special. A loving God created you. Take joy in that. More love in the world begins with us loving ourselves.


Wednesday, November 6, 2019

Why working from home is good for business | The Way We Work, a TED series


As the popularity of remote working continues to spread, workers today can collaborate across cities, countries and even multiple time zones. How does this change office dynamics? And how can we make sure that all employees, both at headquarters and at home, feel connected? Matt Mullenweg, the co-founder of Wordpress and CEO of Automattic (which has a 100 percent distributed workforce), shares his secrets.